Holiday Discrimination

Warning:  I wrote this while angry so I used a lot of bad words.  Don't read it if you can't take profanity.

After sacrificing a Sunday at work, I went to meet up with Rocker at the Parlor.  Since we haven't had power for days at our house, I decided to just wear a hat for the day because I can't use any electronic tools to help my hair anyway.  This knit hat is really cute and funny.  It is black, with two pointing ends on top, and three knit flowers in different colors right where the forehead is.  So here I am, thinking I look cute and funny, and I get stopped at the front door of the Parlor.  The doorman tells me that there is a no hat policy that he'd be happy to check my hat at the door.  Hmmm.  Well, I didn't feel like I want to go and meet up with Rocker and his friends with a nappy head so I declined the offer to have my hat checked.  I asked if I can just run in quickly to let Rocker know that I won't be joining them and then run quickly out.  The doorman dude tells me he'd be happy to let me in if I take my hat off and check it.  I said OK, fine, I won't go in and will not take my hat off.  Doorman then reiterated the fact that they have an absolutely no hat policy.  No hat means no hat.  Fine I said again and I respect that they have this rule and fine I won't go in.  So I tried to call Rocker but his phone is dead so he won't answer.  So I asked the doorman if he can please go find my husband and bring him out.  The doorman said sure and went fetched Rocker for me.  Rocker came out and we chatted and he decided that it was time for him to go anyway and he'll just go pay for his bill.  I said fine I'll wait.  Rocker goes in, and not one minute later, a lady, wearing a big santa hat shows up, and the doorman who told me repeatedly about the no hat policy, walks the lady in to the back part of the restaurant.  WTF!?!  No hat means no hat??? 

At this point, I was irate.  I kept my cool and went to the reception desk and asked the doorlady what is up with that?  While I was trying to nicely communicate with the door lady, there was this really tall asshole man in his late 40's - 50's, that turned to me and said what is the big deal, just take your hat off!  He was talking down to me even though he has no idea what just happened.  It was irritating and he was talking over me while I'm still at this point trying to talk with the door lady.  I told him that this matter does not concern him and he needs to just to get out of my face.  He points to his belly with one hand and head with another hand and says that he's already out of my face (basically calling me short) as he left the restaurant.  What a fucking jackass!  I wanted to ask him how the fuck could he really comment or understand what is happening when he has been a bully all his life, taking advantage and being unfair to others for his very own personal gain and satisfaction?  Fuck him, I still have the hat situation to deal with.

I turn back to the doorlady and she asks if I wanted to speak with a manager.  I said yes please.  While I waited for the manager, Rocker's friend B came out and said "I bet your'e hiding couple guns under that hat."  He made me laugh.  He said that he saw the doorman take the santa hat lady back to the area where they were sitting and they all razzed the doorman about it. The doorman said that the santa hat is OK because it's the holidays.  WHAT?!  He told me there is an absolutely no hat policy.  And while we were chatting about this, another person got let in with a baseball cap on backwards.  This situation has quickly became absurd.

The manager came and I talked with him nicely.  I told him that I was obiding by the rules and didn't go in the restaurant because the doorman told me absolutely no hats.  But when other hats are being allowed, but not mine, then I smell discrimination.  Even Rocker's friends commented on the fact that the only person with a hat that wasn't allowed in the restaurant happened to be a non-white person. Hmmm...  I didn't want to go that far and I don't think that is the case either.  But I think that it is really unfair to tell me that there is an absolutely no hat policy but then let Santa hats to be OK.  Maybe my hat is a holiday hat - just not a Christian holiday hat?  Maybe my hat is a Buddhist winter holiday celebration hat?!  Anyway, we got no where with the manager of the restaurant.  Got his biz card and the number for the owner.  Rocker's called and left a couple messages but I don't think we'll hear anything from them.

This is messed up.