Relearning What "Given" Means

Remember back in junior high and learning Geometry?  Remember Theroms and Givens? 
Givens is just what it is, the data that you can use to prove a therom exists.  (OK, if I remember correctly cuz this is like over 20 years ago).

My sensors for givens have been pretty effed up so that when a guy is nice to me like any human is being nice to another human, in my head I think that they are being especially nice to me.  So, I'm trying to relearn what is the given of nice when it comes to being in a dating relationship.  Make sense?

I feel like since my revelation I have been going through a life makeover.  Starting with job, fitness, mental state, and of course, way I look at/think about things.  It's weird in a great way because all that anger I had harbored towards my ex has also gone away.  I no longer feel hurt when I think about him.  Yes, sadness, but in a good way, like anyone would be sad for saying goodbye to a third of their life.  Life is good again.  I am happy again - and not bouncing between the extreme highs and lows.  :)